Lena Hellblom Sjögren is a PhD researcher and licensed psychologist practicing since 1991 as an investigative forensic psychologist, mostly in complicated custody and sexual abuse cases, followed up in courts all over Sweden, also in Norway and occasionally in some other countries. Until 2020 the number of investigated cases is about 350. Two wide concepts might summarize the work done in different fields also before this investigative work : democracy and human rights.
In Worpress you will find published and unpublished writings by Lena Hellblom Sjögren from the 1990s until 2020. The aim with publishing this material is to give those readers who want access to the documentation of some of the Swedish reality, mostly unknown, to some more people.
Lena Hellblom Sjögren, PhD, licensed psychologist
Do you agree with the proposal that parental alienation relational problem be included in DSM-5-TR? More than 1,000 individuals and organizations have endorsed the proposal.
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Välkommen till Aten 5-7 maj 2023 på den 7e internationella konferensen
The Sixth International Conference on Shared Parenting (ICSP) will be heldin Athens, Greece on May 5, 6, and 7, 2023.
The conference will be held in person, but a virtual option will be available for those unable to attend. Specialists in the field of shared parenting and other family related issues – representing both the academic sciences and the legal and family professions – are invited to present their research results and professional practice accounts at this interdisciplinary conference. The theme of this conference is:
”It’S TIME TO MAKE HISTORY TOGETHER” Most parental alienation scholars and also alienated parents and grandparents would like to see parental alienation included in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). The time has come to make that happen. In July 2022, a proposal was launched for parental alienation relational problem to be added to one of the chapters in DSM-5-TR. The ultimate purpose for this proposal is for parental alienation theory to be explained and discussed in training programs for psychologists, social workers, psychiatrists, and lawyers.
In our webinar on November 6, 2022, from 8-10 PM EST, Dr. William Bernet will give an update regarding this important project. He will explain the criteria for adding a new relational problem to the DSM. And he will show that parental alienation theory easily meets these criteria, especially after the publication of additional research in recent years. Also, Dr. Bernet will explain how participants in Family Access can help accomplish this goal, that is, by endorsing the proposal that will be submitted soon to DSM-5-TR personnel. Let’s try to make history together!
Each participant may submit a question for Dr. Bernet in relation to the subject. of his presentation. Your question may consist of 2-3 regular sentences. Your question must be submitted no later than Tuesday, November 1, 2022. Please email your question to email@example.com.
Deadline to register is Sunday, November 6, 2022 by 6 PM EST
When: Nov 6, 2022 08:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada) Topic: My Webinar
William Bernet, M.D., a graduate of Holy Cross College, summa cum laude, and Harvard Medical School, is a professor emeritus at Vanderbilt University School of Medicine. He is board certified in general psychiatry, child psychiatry, and forensic psychiatry. As an expert in forensic psychiatry, Dr. Bernet has testified about 300 times in 24 states. Dr. Bernet has written professional articles and book chapters on a variety of subjects, including: group and individual therapy with children and adolescents; humor in psychotherapy; forensic child psychiatry; child maltreatment; true and false allegations of abuse; satanic ritual abuse; reincarnation; child custody and visitation; parental alienation; testimony regarding behavioral genomics; and risk management. In 2007, Dr. Bernet and Judge Don R. Ash published Children of Divorce: A Practical Guide for Parents, Therapists, Attorneys, and Judges. Dr. Bernet edited Parental Alienation, DSM-5, and ICD-11, which was published in 2010. Dr. Bernet and his colleagues edited Parental Alienation: The Handbook for Mental Health and Legal Professionals, which was published in 2013. He was the founder and first president of the Parental Alienation Study Group.
Lena Hellblom Sjögren som i dag den 27 juli 2002 , när den viktiga nyheten om ett högt antal av barn utsätts för barnfridsbrott, vidaresänder ett väl underbyggt förslag av William Bernet och Amy Baker
/forwarding today a well founded suggestion by William Bernet and Amy Baker July 27, 2022, when the important Swedish news about a high number of children exposed to domestic violence is presented.
Proposal for Parental Alienation Relational Problem to be Included in
“Other Conditions That May Be a Focus of Clinical Attention” _in DSM-5-TR
Submitted by William Bernet, M.D., and Amy J. L. Baker, Ph.D.
June 27, 2022
William Bernet, M.D.
Vanderbilt University School of Medicine
Nashville, Tennessee, USA
Cell phone: 001-615-330-0124
Amy J. L. Baker, Ph.D.
Teaneck, New Jersey
Cell phone: 001-201-321-9874
BRIEF DESCRIPTION OF PROPOSED CHANGE
This document proposes that parental alienation be considered a relational problem in the chapter of DSM-5-T_R_,_ _“O_t_h_e_r_ _C_o_n_d_i_t_i_o_n_s_ _T_h_a_t_ _M_a_y_ _B_e_ _a_ _F_o_c_u_s_ _o_f_ _C_l_i_n_i_c_a_l_ _A_t_t_e_n_t_i_o_n_._” _This is the proposed wording for parental alienation relational problem (PARP):
Z62.898 Parental Alienation Relational Problem
This category may be used when a child—usually one whose parents are engaged in a high-conflict separation or divorce—allies strongly with one parent and rejects a relationship with the other parent without a good reason. The diagnosis of parental alienation relational problem usually requires five criteria: the child actively avoids, resists, or refuses a relationship with a parent; the presence of a prior positive relationship between the child and the now rejected parent; the absence of abuse or neglect or seriously deficient parenting on the part of the now rejected parent; the use of multiple alienating behaviors by the favored parent; and the manifestation of behavioral signs of alienation by the child. Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 2
JUSTIFICATIONS FOR THE PROPOSED CHANGE
Rationale for Proposed Change
P_A_R_P_ _i_s_ _a_ _s_e_r_i_o_u_s_ _m_e_n_t_a_l_ _c_o_n_d_i_t_i_o_n_ _t_h_a_t_ _s_o_m_e_t_i_m_e_s_ _o_c_c_u_r_s_ _w_h_e_n_ _a_ _c_h_i_l_d_’s_ _p_a_r_e_n_t_s_ _a_r_e_ _e_n_g_a_g_e_d_ _in a high-conflict separation or divorce. For the child, it is painful to be caught in the battle-ground between their parents. For the alienated parent, it is humiliating, traumatic, and extremely frustrating to be irrationally rejected by a child, with whom they previously had an enjoyable, loving relationship. Both clinicians and forensic practitioners need to be able to: identify this condition when it is presented in both evaluation and therapy sessions; take steps to prevent its progression when it is mild in severity; and devise appropriate interventions when it is at a moderate or severe level of intensity.
Historical Context for This Proposal
The concept of PARP has been around for centuries in legal literature1 p 284 and for decades in mental health literature.2 p 153, 3 p 63 T_h_e_ _p_h_e_n_o_m_e_n_o_n_ _o_f_ _P_A_R_P_ _h_a_s_ _b_e_e_n_ _c_a_l_l_e_d_ _t_h_e_ _“i_n_t_e_r_d_e_-_p_e_n_d_e_n_t_ _t_r_i_a_d_,_”4 pp 48–49 “c_r_o_s_s_-g_e_n_e_r_a_t_i_o_n_a_l_ _c_o_a_l_i_t_i_o_n_,_”5 p 102 t_h_e_ _“M_e_d_e_a_ _s_y_n_d_r_o_m_e_,_”6 pp 195–196 “p_r_o_g_r_a_m_m_i_n_g_” _a_n_d_ _“b_r_a_i_n_w_a_s_h_i_n_g_,_”7 p 8 “n_o_t_-based-on-actual-i_n_t_e_r_a_c_t_i_o_n_,_”8 p 105 “d_i_v_o_r_c_e_-re-l_a_t_e_d_ _m_a_l_i_c_i_o_u_s_ _p_a_r_e_n_t_ _s_y_n_d_r_o_m_e_,_”9 p 96 “a_n_ _a_l_i_e_n_a_t_e_d_ _c_h_i_l_d_,_”10 p 251 a_n_d_ _“r_e_s_i_s_t_/_r_e_f_u_s_e_ _d_y_-_n_a_m_i_c_._”11 p 424
I_n_ _1_9_8_5_,_ _R_i_c_h_a_r_d_ _G_a_r_d_n_e_r_ _i_n_t_r_o_d_u_c_e_d_ _t_h_e_ _t_e_r_m_ _“p_a_r_e_n_t_a_l_ _a_l_i_e_n_a_t_i_o_n_ _s_y_n_d_r_o_m_e_” _(_P_A_S_)_._12 In recent years, most writers have stopped using the w_o_r_d_ _“s_y_n_d_r_o_m_e_” _a_n_d_ _s_i_m_p_l_y_ _r_e_f_e_r_r_e_d_ _t_o_ _t_h_i_s_ _p_h_e_-_n_o_m_e_n_o_n_ _a_s_ _“p_a_r_e_n_t_a_l_ _a_l_i_e_n_a_t_i_o_n_._” _F_o_r_ _p_u_r_p_o_s_e_s_ _o_f_ _t_h_i_s_ _p_r_o_p_o_s_a_l_,_ _w_e_ _a_r_e_ _u_s_i_n_g_ _t_h_e_ _t_e_r_m_ _“p_a_r_e_n_-_t_a_l_ _a_l_i_e_n_a_t_i_o_n_ _r_e_l_a_t_i_o_n_a_l_ _p_r_o_b_l_e_m_._” _
When DSM-5 was being developed, a group of scholars proposed in a lengthy journal article13 and a book14 t_h_a_t_ _t_h_i_s_ _c_l_i_n_i_c_a_l_ _e_n_t_i_t_y_ _b_e_ _i_n_c_l_u_d_e_d_ _a_s_ _e_i_t_h_e_r_ _“p_a_r_e_n_t_a_l_ _a_l_i_e_n_a_t_i_o_n_ _d_i_s_o_r_d_e_r_” _o_r_ _“p_a_-_r_e_n_t_a_l_ _a_l_i_e_n_a_t_i_o_n_ _r_e_l_a_t_i_o_n_a_l_ _p_r_o_b_l_e_m_._” _(Complimentary copies of the book, Parental Alienation, DSM-5, and ICD-11, are available for the DSM-5 Screening Committee upon request.)
During the development of DSM-5, the author of this proposal (WB) corresponded with members of the DSM-5 Task Force, including David J. Kupfer, M.D., Darrel A. Regier, M.D., William E. Nar-row, M.D., Roger Peele, M.D., Daniel S. Pine, M.D., and David Shaffer, M.D. All these individuals agreed on the reality of parental alienation phenomena. Most of them repeatedly said, both publicly and privately, that parental alienation could not be considered a mental disorder because parental alienation does not “reside i_n_s_i_d_e_” _t_h_e_ _d_e_s_i_g_n_a_t_e_d_ _p_a_t_i_e_n_t_._ _I_n_s_t_e_a_d_,_ _t_h_e_y_ _s_a_i_d_ _t_h_a_t_ _p_a_-_rental alienation was a mental condition—specifically, a relational problem—because it occurs between the designated patient (usually a child) and another person (usually a parent). Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 3
For example, Darrel A. Regier wrote:
Dear Dr. Bernet:
Many thanks for your follow-up letter to Dr. Kupfer, Dr. Pine, and me regarding the proposed criteria for Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS). You are correct in your understanding of our rationale behind excluding PAS from DSM-5. As you note, we consider this primarily a relational problem covered under the V-codes in ICD-9-CM and Z-codes in ICD-10-CM. It is not a health-r_e_l_a_t_e_d_ _c_o_n_d_i_t_i_o_n_ _t_h_a_t_ _r_e_s_i_d_e_s_ _w_i_t_h_i_n_ _a_n_ _i_n_d_i_v_i_d_u_a_l_._ _… _Therefore, it does not meet our standar_d_ _d_e_f_i_n_i_t_i_o_n_ _o_f_ _a_ _m_e_n_t_a_ _d_i_s_o_r_d_e_r_._ _… _T_h_a_n_k_ _y_o_u_ _again for reaching out to us about these matters.
Darrel A. Regier, M.D., M.P.H.
(Letter from Darrel A. Regier to William Bernet, October 12, 2012)
A_l_t_h_o_u_g_h_ _t_h_e_ _a_c_t_u_a_l_ _w_o_r_d_s_ _“p_a_r_e_n_t_a_l_ _a_l_i_e_n_a_t_i_o_n_” _w_e_r_e_ _n_o_t_ _i_n_c_l_u_d_e_d_ _i_n_ _D_S_M_-5, the concept of PARP w_a_s_ _i_n_c_l_u_d_e_d_ _i_n_ _t_h_r_e_e_ _d_i_f_f_e_r_e_n_t_ _d_i_a_g_n_o_s_e_s_ _i_n_ _t_h_e_ _c_h_a_p_t_e_r_ _o_n_ _“O_t_h_e_r_ _C_o_n_d_i_t_i_o_n_s_.” _Each of these diagnoses paraphrased the meaning of PARP in their respective definitions:
• _Child affected by parental relationship distress (CAPRD) =_ _“… _n_e_g_a_t_i_v_e_ _e_f_f_e_c_t_s_ _o_f_ _p_a_-_rental relationship discord (e.g., high levels of conflict, distress, or disparagement) o_n_ _a_ _c_h_i_l_d_ _i_n_ _t_h_e_ _f_a_m_i_l_y_._” _
• _Child psychological abuse =_ _“h_a_r_m_i_n_g_/_a_b_a_n_d_o_n_i_n_g_ _p_e_o_p_l_e_ _o_r_ _things that the child c_a_r_e_s_ _a_b_o_u_t_._” _
Practitioners were advised that if they identified a case of parental alienation, they could use one or more of those terms to classify the client, depending on the focus of attention. That is, CAPRD was appropriate if the focus was on the mental condition of the child; parent-child relational problem was appropriate if the focus was on the relationship between the child and the rejected parent, and child psychological abuse was appropriate if the focus was on the alienating behaviors of the favored parent.
Following the publication of DSM-5, Bernet, Wamboldt, and Narrow15 published an article, “C_h_i_l_d_ _A_f_f_e_c_t_e_d_ _b_y_ _P_a_r_e_n_t_a_l_ _R_e_l_a_t_i_o_n_s_h_i_p_ _D_i_s_t_r_e_s_s_,_” _i_n_ _t_h_e_ _Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. They said that CAPRD is a heterogeneous concept that covers at least four family scenarios: children exposed to intimate partner distress; children exposed to Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 4
intimate partner violence; children experiencing intense loyalty conflict; and children experiencing parental alienation (see Appendix A).
Possible Negative Consequences of Proposed Change
Critics of the concept of parental alienation have claimed that abusive fathers assert that their children avoid having a relationship with them because their mothers have alienated the children against them. In this way, fathers are allegedly using the concept of parental alienation as a_ _w_a_y_ _t_o_ _d_e_f_l_e_c_t_ _r_e_s_p_o_n_s_i_b_i_l_i_t_y_ _f_o_r_ _t_h_e_ _c_h_i_l_d_’s_ _r_e_j_e_c_t_i_o_n_ _o_f_ _t_h_e_m_._ _Of course, any psychiatric diagnosis that finds its way into legal proceedings may be abused by inept expert witnesses and un-principled attorneys. For example, it has been said that posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is the most widely misused psychiatric concept in legal settings. That does not mean that PTSD and PARP should be disallowed or dismissed, but that these terms should be used correctly by clinicians, forensic practitioners, lawyers, and judges.
Controversies or Disagreements among Researchers and Clinicians
Even the most vocal critics of PARP agree that the phenomenon occurs. For example, Madelyn S. Milchman, Robert Geffner, and Joan S. Meier16 said:
One more important distinction must be made: None of the authors of this article dispute the need to identify, assess, and treat parent-child relationship problems where a parent may have manipulated a child to reject the other p_a_r_e_n_t_._ _… _H_o_w_e_v_e_r_,_ _w_e_ _s_t_r_o_n_g_l_y_ _object to using the label_ _“a_l_i_e_n_a_t_i_o_n_” _a_s_ _a_ _d_i_a_g_n_o_s_t_i_c_,_ _s_c_i_e_n_t_i_f_i_c_,_ _o_r_ _p_s_y_c_h_o_-legal construct in place of an objective and comprehensive causal assessment, whether that assessment is done as a child custody evaluation or as a careful review of the facts by judges or other decisionmakers. (p. 342)
Some widely held opinions of critics of PARP are simply misunderstandings or misinformation regarding parental alienation theory. Critics have repeatedly made the false claim that proponents of parental alienation theory assume that every instance of contact refusal was caused by the alienating behaviors of the favored parent. That idea is misinformation that has been repeated over and over again in journal articles and book chapters by parental alienation critics.17 Instead, parental alienation theory holds that not all instances of contact refusal are caused by alienating behaviors of the favored parent; and alienating behaviors by Parent A do not always cause children to reject Parent B. Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 5
The great majority of practitioners (who are familiar with parental alienation) agree on the basic principles of the theory. (See research described below.) There are relatively minor disagreements regarding diagnosis and interventions for PARP. There may be disagreements on how to distinguish mild, moderate, and severe levels of PARP. There may be disagreements regarding the interventions for these levels of severity.
MAGNITUDE OF PROPOSED CHANGE
W_e_ _u_n_d_e_r_s_t_a_n_d_ _t_h_a_t_ _t_h_e_ _a_d_d_i_t_i_o_n_ _o_f_ _a_ _n_e_w_ _c_o_n_d_i_t_i_o_n_ _t_o_ _“O_t_h_e_r_ _C_o_n_d_i_t_i_o_n_s_ _T_h_a_t_ _M_a_y_ _B_e_ _a_ _F_o_c_u_s_ _o_f_ _C_l_i_n_i_c_a_l_ _A_t_t_e_n_t_i_o_n_” _i_s_ _c_o_n_s_i_d_e_r_e_d_ _a_ _s_u_b_s_t_antial change. Although PARP may represent a substantial change with regard to DSM nosology, it is not a large change with respect to the public awareness of this condition, the use of this concept by mental health practitioners, and the activities of researchers.
Harman et al.18 recently published a comprehensive review of parental alienation literature. They identified more than one thousand articles and books that pertained primarily to parental alienation theory. They excluded the material that contained no data; they ultimately reviewed in detail 207 empirical research studies described in articles and books (see Appendix B). The following graph demonstrates how qualitative and quantitative research regarding parental alienation theory has grown over time:
More than 100 books have been published regarding PARP, most of them written by psychiatrists, psychologists, and other mental health professionals; some were written by alienated Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 6
parents or formerly alienated children describing their lived experiences (see Appendix C).
The exact threshold for the requirement of em_p_i_r_i_c_a_l_ _r_e_s_e_a_r_c_h_ _t_o_ _b_e_ _i_n_c_l_u_d_e_d_ _i_n_ _“O_t_h_e_r_ _C_o_n_d_i_-_t_i_o_n_s_” _i_s_ _u_n_c_l_e_a_r_. There has been an overwhelming amount of qualitative and quantitative research regarding PARP; only a fraction of those studies is explicitly noted in this proposal. Ironically, the novel diagnosis of CAPRD was added to t_h_e_ _c_h_a_p_t_e_r_ _o_n_ _“O_t_h_e_r_ _C_o_n_d_i_t_i_o_n_s_” _i_n_ _DSM-5 even though there had never been a single peer-reviewed article regarding that condition prior to the publication of DSM-5 in 2013.
SUMMARY OF DATA ON CLINICAL UTILITY
Summary of Information Regarding the Clinical Utility in Several Populations
There is vast professional literature regarding PARP, which relates qualitative research from diverse national, cultural, and ethnic groups. After parental alienation was described by Gardner a_n_d_ _o_t_h_e_r_ _w_r_i_t_e_r_s_ _i_n_ _t_h_e_ _1_9_9_0_’s_ _a_n_d_ _2_0_0_0_’s_,_ _p_s_y_c_h_i_a_t_r_i_s_t_s_ _a_n_d_ _p_s_y_chologists in countries on six continents reported that the same mental condition occurred in children and families in their own practices. Most of these articles constituted case reports of this mental condition; some authors commented on the intransigence of alienating parents and the difficulties encountered in trying to help alienated children have a good relationship with both parents.
Peer-reviewed publications regarding PARP have appeared in professional literature in more than 50 countries (see Table 1). Of course, the implications regarding clinical utility are that practitioners and researchers in many countries will benefit from standardized definitions and diagnostic criteria for this mental condition. If practitioners understand PARP, they will be able to help children and families who are struggling with this mental condition. Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 7
Empirical Studies Regarding Validity and Reliability
In addition to the qualitative research described above, there has been quantitative research that addressed the validity and reliability of PARP. The diagnosis of PARP is based on the following five specific factors19, 20 (see Appendix D):
• _Five: Exhibition of many or all of the eight behavioral manifestations of alienation by the child.
Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 8
The validity of Factors One, Two, and Three are untestable. They simply comprise the definition of PARP, so they are required for the diagnosis of this mental condition. There may be rare exceptions. For example, Factor Two (prior positive relationship) may not be present if Parent A withheld the child from Parent B starting with the birth of the child. Factor Three (absence of abuse or neglect) may not apply if domestic violence occurred many years previously and the child subsequently enjoyed a healthy relationship with the formerly abusive parent.
The validity of Factor Four was established in the following studies:
Baker and Darnall (2006).21 Ninety-seven self-reported targeted parents completed a survey about the actions and attitudes of the other parent. Over 1,300 specific behaviors were mentioned, which were independently coded by the two authors. They were reduced to eleven categories of parental alienation behaviors.
Baker (2007).22 Baker was one of the first psychologists to conduct systematic research regarding parental alienation syndrome and parental alienation. In this research project, Baker collected the life stories of adults who had previously experienced parental alienation syndrome as children.
Baker and Chambers (2011).23 One hundred five undergraduate or graduate students completed a survey regarding their recollections of exposure to parental alienating behaviors by a parent during their childhood. Results revealed that 80% of the sample reported some exposure and those whose parents were divorced reported statistically significant higher levels of exposure.
Baker and Verrocchio (2013).24 Two hundred fifty-seven undergraduate students completed a survey, the Baker Strategies Questionnaire (BSQ) about their recollection of their childhood exposure to alienating behaviors by a parent as well as measures of current functioning. Results revealed statistically significant associations between exposure to parental alienating behaviors and current self-esteem, depression, alcohol abuse, self-direction, and cooperation.
Baker and Eichler (2014).25 One hundred fifty-seven college students completed a survey about their recollections of childhood exposure to alienating behaviors by their parents. Those whose parents were separated/divorced reported higher levels as did those who reported that their pa_r_e_n_t_s_’ _m_a_r_r_i_a_g_e_ _w_a_s_ _p_o_o_r_ _q_u_a_l_i_t_y_._ _T_h_e_ _h_i_g_h_e_r_ _t_h_e_ _r_a_t_e_ _o_f_ _e_x_p_o_s_u_r_e_,_ _t_h_e_ _g_r_e_a_t_e_r_ _t_h_e_ _r_e_p_o_r_t_ _o_f_ _psychological maltreatment.
Verrocchio, Baker, and Bernet (2016).26 Exposure to alienating behaviors was associated with maltreatment, which was associated with parental bonding, which was associated with each of the three mental health outcomes: depression, state anxiety, and trait anxiety. The authors Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 9
conclude that exposure to alienating behaviors in childhood represents a risk factor for subsequent poor mental health.
The validity of Factor Five was established in the following studies:
Baker and Darnall (2007).27 Sixty-eight parents were surveyed about the behaviors of their children from whom they reported to be alienated. Results revealed general support for the presence of the eight behavioral manifestations of alienation as well as windows of opportunity w_h_e_n_ _e_v_e_n_ _t_h_e_ _m_o_s_t_ _a_l_i_e_n_a_t_e_d_ _c_h_i_l_d_r_e_n_ _d_e_m_o_n_s_t_r_a_t_e_ _“c_r_a_c_k_s_ _i_n_ _t_h_e_ _a_r_m_o_u_r_,_” _p_o_i_n_t_i_n_g_ _t_o_w_a_r_d_ _avenues for intervention.
Baker and Eichler (2014).28 One hundred fifty-seven college students completed a survey about their recollections of childhood exposure to alienating behaviors by their parents. Those whose parents were separated/divorced reported higher levels as did those who reported that their pa_r_e_n_t_s_’ _m_a_r_r_i_a_g_e_ _w_a_s_ _p_o_o_r_ _q_u_a_l_i_t_y_._ _T_h_e_ _h_i_g_h_e_r_ _t_h_e_ _r_a_t_e_ _o_f_ _e_x_p_o_s_u_r_e_,_ _t_h_e_ _g_r_e_a_t_e_r_ _t_h_e_ _r_e_p_o_r_t_ _o_f_ _psychological maltreatment.
The reliability of the diagnostic criteria for PARP was addressed in the following studies:
Rueda (2004).29 This was a small study of inter-rater reliability (14 participants for the test and 10 for the re-test). Rueda presented 5 case vignettes, some of which had 8 signs characteristic of parental alienation. He found that the manifest behaviors were recognizable and reliable for identifying parental alienation.
Morrison (2006).30 Morrison replicated the Rueda (2004) study using the same vignettes. He concluded that the 8 manifest behaviors are reliable in identifying parental alienation. The sample size consisted of 32 raters for the test and 20 for the re-test.
Baker (2018).19 Sixty-eight mental health professionals completed surveys, which addressed the Four-Factor Model for the identification of parental alienation. Baker reported that reliability was quite high across the vignettes, coders, and factors. There was agreement that when all four factors are present the case is alienation and when one or no factor is present it is not alienation. (The Four-Factor Model evolved to the Five-Factor Model used in this proposal. The only difference is the addition of the new Factor One, the requirement that the child manifests contact refusal.)
Morrison and Ring (2021).31 Six vignettes related to parental alienation were presented to a panel of mental health professionals; the number of respondents ranged between 34 and 61 f_o_r_ _e_a_c_h_ _v_i_g_n_e_t_t_e_._ _T_h_e_ _a_u_t_h_o_r_s_ _s_a_i_d_,_ _“The Intraclass Correlation Coefficient indicated reliability with an average of 0.923 for all vignettes. The Cronbach Alpha values indicate consistency, with a_n_ _a_v_e_r_a_g_e_ _o_f_ _0_._9_2_6_._” _T_h_u_s_,_ _t_h_e_ _F_i_v_e_-Factor Model was determined to be a reliable assessment Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 10
The acceptability of the concept of PARP can be addressed in four tiers: (1) the acceptance of the general concept of PARP by large professional organizations; (2) the publication of information regarding parental alienation in major textbooks and reference works; (3) the acceptance of the general concept of PARP by groups of practitioners; and (4) the acceptance of the definitions of specific components of parental alienation theory by groups of practitioners.
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (AACAP). In 1997, AACAP published Practice Parameters for Child Custody Evaluation, a_n_ _“A_A_C_A_P_ _O_f_f_i_c_i_a_l_ _A_c_t_i_o_n_” _t_h_a_t_ _w_a_s_ _a_d_o_p_t_e_d_ _by the governing body of the organization. The practice parameters explicitly referred to and e_x_p_l_a_i_n_e_d_ _t_h_i_s_ _t_o_p_i_c_ _u_n_d_e_r_ _t_h_e_ _h_e_a_d_i_n_g_,_ _“P_a_r_e_n_t_a_l_ _A_l_i_e_n_a_t_i_o_n_._”32
Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC). In 2005, AFCC published Guidelines for Parenting Coordination, which included a discussion of “F_a_m_i_l_y_ _D_y_n_a_m_i_c_s_ _i_n_ _S_e_p_a_r_a_t_i_o_n_ _a_n_d_ _D_i_-_vorce.” _The AFCC document addressed topics such as “d_e_a_l_i_n_g_ _w_i_t_h_ _h_i_g_h_ _c_o_n_f_l_i_c_t_ _p_a_r_e_n_t_s_” _a_n_d_ _“t_h_e_ _d_y_n_a_m_i_c_s_ _o_f_ _c_h_i_l_d_ _a_l_i_g_n_m_e_n_t_s_,_ _e_s_t_r_a_n_g_e_m_e_n_t_s_ _a_n_d_ _a_l_i_e_n_a_t_i_o_n_._”33 p 18 In 2019, AFCC published Guidelines for Parenting Coordination. That document addressed the “c_o_n_t_i_n_u_u_m_ _o_f_ _p_a_r_-_ent–child contact problems (e.g., affinity, alignments, realistic estrangement, alienation, hybrid) and levels of severity in cases involving resist-r_e_f_u_s_e_ _d_y_n_a_m_i_c_s_._”34 p 3 In 2022, AFCC published Guidelines for Parenting Plan Evaluations in Family Law Cases. In discussing the education, t_r_a_i_n_i_n_g_,_ _a_n_d_ _c_o_m_p_e_t_e_n_c_e_ _o_f_ _c_u_s_t_o_d_y_ _e_v_a_l_u_a_t_o_r_s_,_ _t_h_a_t_ _d_o_c_u_m_e_n_t_ _s_t_a_t_e_d_:_ _“B_e_c_a_u_s_e_ _o_f_ _t_h_e_ _m_a_n_y_ _complex issues that arise in family law cases, evaluators should have education and training in the following foundational areas: (9) parent-child contact problems and resist-refuse dynamics, i_n_c_l_u_d_i_n_g_ _p_o_s_s_i_b_l_e_ _u_n_d_e_r_l_y_i_n_g_ _c_a_u_s_s_e_s_ _s_u_c_h_ _a_s_ _p_a_r_e_n_t_a_l_ _a_l_i_e_n_a_t_i_n_g_ _b_e_h_a_v_i_o_r_s_ _…”35 p 10
American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML). In 2015, AAML published Child Centered Residential Guidelines. That document do_e_s_ _n_o_t_ _i_n_c_l_u_d_e_ _t_h_e_ _w_o_r_d_s_ _“p_a_r_e_n_t_a_l_ _a_l_i_e_n_a_t_i_o_n_,_” _b_u_t_ _c_l_e_a_r_l_y_ _d_e_s_c_r_i_b_e_s_ _t_h_e_ _p_r_o_b_l_e_m_:_ _“A_ _c_h_i_l_d_ _m_a_y_ _a_l_s_o_ _r_e_s_i_s_t_ _p_a_r_e_n_t_i_n_g_ _d_u_e_ _t_o_ _c_o_n_t_r_i_v_e_d_ _o_r_ _m_a_g_n_i_f_i_e_d_ _concerns regarding a parent that may be supported by the non-rejected parent. In cases where the concerns are unsupported or exaggerated, early and ongoing Court intervention is imperative to halt the conduct of the parent and to provide immediate consequences for the violation of cour_t_ _o_r_d_e_r_s_._” _The AAML Guidelines also lists several alienating behaviors.36 p 36–37
American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). In 2016, the AAP published a clinical report called “H_e_l_p_i_n_g_ _C_h_i_l_d_r_e_n_ _a_n_d_ _F_a_m_i_l_i_e_s_ _D_e_a_l_ _w_i_t_h_ _D_i_v_o_r_c_e_ _a_n_d_ _S_e_p_a_r_a_t_i_o_n_._” _T_h_a_t_ _r_e_p_o_r_t_ _s_a_i_d_,_ _“A_l_i_e_n_a_t_i_o_n_ _of the child and the targeted parent is a frequent problem that needs practical professional input to correct the negative e_f_f_e_c_t_s_ _o_n_ _a_l_l_ _p_a_r_t_i_e_s_._”37 Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 11
National and international meetings and educational programs. Many professional organizations have accepted papers and symposiums regarding parental alienation at conferences for mental health and legal professionals:
• _American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (2010, 2012, 2017)
Interventions for PARP depend on whether the case is mild, moderate, or severe in intensity:
• _Mild PARP: The child complains about spending time with the rejected parent, but goes and has a good time. In cases of mild PARP, the mental health professional may strongly admonish the parents to stop exposing their child to conflict and stop un-d_e_r_m_i_n_i_n_g_ _c_h_i_l_d_’s_ _r_e_l_a_t_i_o_n_s_h_i_p_ _w_i_t_h_ _t_h_e_ _o_t_h_e_r_ _p_a_r_e_n_t_._ _
• _Moderate PARP: The child complains about spending time with the rejected parent and is oppositional during much of the time with the rejected parent, although there may be some opportunities for enjoyable activities between the child and the rejected parent. In cases of moderate PARP, it is usually recommended to design a comprehensive approach to help the favored parent, the rejected parent, and child to change their attitudes and behaviors. In some cases of moderate PARP, it is necessaryto remove child from the influence of the favored parent.
• _Severe PARP: The child adamantly refuses to see the rejected parent and may threaten to run away f_r_o_m_ _t_h_e_ _r_e_j_e_c_t_e_d_ _p_a_r_e_n_t_’s_ _h_o_u_s_e_h_o_l_d_._ _T_h_e_ _c_h_i_l_d_’s_ _h_o_s_t_i_l_e_ _o_r_ _i_n_-_different behavior may persist for months or years. Also, some children who have parenting time with the rejected parent may still be considered severe if: the child is persistently oppositional; the child manifests most or all of the behavioral signs of PARP; the favored parent continues alienating behaviors; and/or there has been no improvement after a traditional therapeutic intervention. In cases of severe PARP, it is almost always necessary to remove the child from the influence of the favored parent.
• _Extreme PARP: Occasionally, the feelings associated with PARP become so intense that one of the participants of the pathological triad kills themself and/or another family member: an alienated child killed their alienated parent44; an alienating par-ent killed the child and themself45; an alienated child (or alienated parent) may become so hopeless and frustrated that they kill themself.46 Of course, there is no intervention for these tragic cases; our only hope is to prevent the onset of PARP and intervene before the cases progress to severe and extreme levels of intensity.
There have been peer-reviewed publications regarding interventions for PARP, which are listed in chronological order:
Warshak (2010).47 The author found: “B_y_ _t_h_e_ _c_o_n_c_l_u_s_i_o_n_ _o_f_ _t_h_e_ _w_o_r_k_s_h_o_p_,_ _2_2_ _o_f_ _t_h_e_ _2_3_ _c_h_i_l_-_dren, all of whom were severely alienated at the outset, and had prior failed experiences with counseling, had restored a positive relationship with the rejected parent as evidenced by the Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 14
Reay (2015).48 The author reported that:_ _“T_h_e_ _p_i_l_o_t_ _r_e_v_e_a_l_e_d_ _a_ _9_5_%_ _s_u_c_c_e_s_s_ _r_a_t_e_ _(_2_1_ _o_f_ _t_h_e_ _2_2_ _children) in reestablishing a relationship between the children and their once-rejected parents between the second and third day of the retreat as evidenced by the_ _c_h_i_l_d_r_e_n_’s_ _s_t_a_t_e_m_e_n_t_s_,_ _p_a_r_e_n_t_s_’ _s_t_a_t_e_m_e_n_t_s_,_ _a_n_d_ _o_b_s_e_r_v_a_t_i_o_n_s_ _o_f_ _t_h_e_ _m_u_l_t_i_d_i_s_c_i_p_l_i_n_a_r_y_ _t_e_a_m_ _a_t_ _t_h_e_ _r_e_t_r_e_a_t_._” _
Walters and Friedlander (2016).49 This article examines the guidelines both in and out of court for dealing with resist/refuse dynamics in families. It explains in detail the intervention called Multi-Modal Family Intervention, which they found to be appropriate for mild and some moderate cases of PARP.
Richard Warshak (2018).50 This study involved 83 participants._ _A_t_ _t_h_e_ _w_o_r_k_s_h_o_p_’s_ _c_o_n_c_l_u_s_i_o_n_,_ _parents rated 99% of relationships improved; professionals rated 94% of relationships im-p_r_o_v_e_d_;_ _c_h_i_l_d_r_e_n_ _r_a_t_e_d_ _7_4_%_ _o_f_ _r_e_l_a_t_i_o_n_s_h_i_p_s_ _i_m_p_r_o_v_e_d_._” _“I_m_p_r_o_v_e_d_” _m_eant “m_u_c_h_ _b_e_t_t_e_r_” _p_l_u_s_ _“s_o_m_e_w_h_a_t_ _b_e_t_t_e_r_._” _NOTE: In both Warshak studies, some children later relapsed, usually be-cause of premature contact with the favored parent.
Jennifer J. Harman, Luke Saunders, and Tamara Afifi (2022).51 T_h_e_ _a_u_t_h_o_r_s_ _s_a_i_d_,_ _“Improvements in the parent-child relationships were noted, and the TPFF helped to improve family m_e_m_b_e_r_s_’ _c_o_m_m_u_n_a_l_ _c_o_p_i_n_g_ _s_c_o_r_e_s_._ _P_a_r_t_i_c_i_p_a_t_i_o_n_ _d_i_d_ _n_o_t_ _l_e_a_d_ _t_o_ _n_e_g_a_t_i_v_e_ _c_h_a_n_g_e_s_ _o_n_ _a_n_y_ _measure. This preliminary evidence indicates that TPFF, similar to other therapeutic structural i_n_t_e_r_v_e_n_t_i_o_n_s_,_ _i_s_ _a_ _s_a_f_e_ _a_n_d_ _e_f_f_e_c_t_i_v_e_ _t_r_e_a_t_m_e_n_t_ _o_p_t_i_o_n_ _f_o_r_ _s_e_v_e_r_e_l_y_ _a_l_i_e_n_a_t_e_d_ _c_h_i_l_d_r_e_n_._” _
SUMMARY OF DATA ON PREVALENCE OF PARP
Alienating behaviors (the activities of the alienating parent) are much more common than PARP (the mental condition of the child and their relationship with the rejected parent); most children who are exposed to alienating behaviors do not develop parental alienation.
Harman, Leder-Elder, and Biringen (2019)52 reported on three online surveys from the United States and Canada to determine the mental health impact of parental alienating behaviors. These surveys built on a state-level survey published in 2016 by the same authors. They found, again, that between 35% and 39% of parents in the U.S. reported being targets of parental alienating behaviors.
Bernet (2010)14 pp 96–98 and (2020)53 pp 19–20 estimated that between 0.5% and 1.0% of children and adolescents in the United States experience PARP. Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 15
SUMMARY OF DATA ON RELIABILITY WITH WHICH PARP CAN BE IDENTIFIED
Distinguishing PARP from Other DSM-5-TR Diagnoses
There are several DSM-5-TR diagnoses that may be confused with PARP in some circumstances, although these conditions can be distinguished in a careful clinical evaluation:
Child affected by parental relationship distress (CAPRD). The definition of CAPRD includes “… _negative effects of parental relationship discord (e.g., high levels of conflict, distress, or dispar-a_g_e_m_e_n_t_)_ _o_n_ _a_ _c_h_i_l_d_ _i_n_ _t_h_e_ _f_a_m_i_l_y_._” _However, CAPRD is a broad, heterogeneous concept that covers at least four family scenarios: children exposed to intimate partner distress; children exposed to intimate partner violence; children experiencing intense loyalty conflict; and children experiencing parental alienation (see Appendix A). On the other hand, PARP is a narrow concept with specific criteria for its diagnosis. If a practitioner is assessing a child who is displaying contact refusal, the initial diagnosis might be CAPRD, which encompasses several possible explanations for the contact refusal. As the evaluation progresses, it should be possible to clarify t_h_e_ _u_n_d_e_r_l_y_i_n_g_ _r_e_a_s_o_n_ _f_o_r_ _t_h_e_ _c_h_i_l_d_’s_ _c_o_n_t_a_c_t_ _r_e_f_u_s_a_l_,_ _w_h_i_c_h_ _m_i_g_h_t_ _b_e_ _P_A_R_P or might be some other issue within the family.
Parent-child relational problem. The definition of this mental condition includes: “n_e_g_a_t_i_v_e_ _a_t_-_t_r_i_b_u_t_i_o_n_s_ _o_f_ _t_h_e_ _o_t_h_e_r_’s_ _i_n_t_e_n_t_i_o_n_s_,_ _h_o_s_t_i_l_i_t_y_ _t_o_w_a_r_d_ _t_h_e_ _o_t_h_e_r_,_ _a_n_d_ _u_n_w_a_r_r_a_n_t_e_d_ _f_e_e_l_i_n_g_s_ _o_f_ _e_s_-_t_r_a_n_g_e_m_e_n_t_._” _However, parent-child relational problem is a broad, heterogeneous concept that covers numerous difficulties that may occur between a child and their parent(s). If a practitioner is assessing a child who is displaying persistent conflict with one or both parents, the initialdiagnosis might be parent-child relational problem, which encompasses several possible explanations for the persistent conflict. As the evaluation progresses, it should be possible to clarify the underlying reason for the persistent conflict, which might be PARP or might be some other issue within the family.
Child psychological abuse. The definition for this mental condition includes: “h_a_r_m_i_n_g_/_ _aban-doning p_e_o_p_l_e_ _o_r_ _t_h_i_n_g_s_ _t_h_a_t_ _t_h_e_ _c_h_i_l_d_ _c_a_r_e_s_ _a_b_o_u_t_._” _However, child psychological abuse is a broad, heterogeneous concept that covers numerous methods by which a parent might engage in child maltreatment. In cases of severe PARP, it is likely that the persistent alienating behaviors of the favored parent constitute child psychological abuse. In such a case, it would be appropriate to diagnose PARP (with respect to the relationship between the child and the rejected parent) and child psychological abuse (with respect to the activities of the favored or alienating parent).
Delusional symptoms in the context of relationship with an individual with prominent delusions. This is DSM-5-TR terminology for the mental disorder that previously was called Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 16
shared psychotic disorder and folie à deux. In some cases of severe PARP, the underlying explanation might be a delusional disorder in the favored parent, which that parent repeatedly discussed with the child and which the child ultimately adopted as their own. In such a case, the best practice would be to diagnose the child with both PARP and delusional symptoms in the context of relationship with an individual with prominent delusions. It is remarkable that the earliest description of PARP in the American Journal of Psychiatry w_a_s_ _“M_o_t_h_e_r_–Son Folie à Deux: A Case of At_t_e_m_p_t_e_d_ _P_a_t_r_i_c_i_d_e_” _(_1_9_7_7_)_._54 That case report clearly described PARP, long before the introduction of the term parental alienation.
Employing Objective Tests to Distinguish PARP from Other Conditions
Several psychological tests have been found to reliably distinguish alienated from nonalienated children. Some of these instruments were developed specifically for this task; others were older, established psychological tests that were newly applied to cases involving PARP. The following are listed in chronological order:
Baker, Burkhard, and Albertson-Kelly (2012)55 The Baker Alienation Questionnaire (BAQ) is intended to identify alienated children using a paper-and-pencil measure that is short, easy to administer, and easy to score objectively. The authors found that the BAQ discriminated between alienated and nonalienated children at an 87.5% accuracy rate. See principal results below:
Rowlands (2019).56 The Rowlands Parental Alienation Scale (RPAS) was administered to 592 parents along with measures of convergent and discriminant validity. The RPAS consists of six factors: campaign of denigration toward the alienated parent; independent thinker phenomenon; reflexive support of favored parent; presence of borrowed scenarios; spread of animosity to extended family of rejected par-ent; and lack of positive affect toward the rejected parent. Parents who reported either that a court evaluation or court findings had confirmed the presence of parental alienation scored significantly higher on all six RPAS factors as well as on the overall RPAS score.
Bernet et al. (2018)57 and (2020).58 The Parental Acceptance-Rejection Questionnaire (PARQ) was administered to 45 severely alienated children and 71 nonalienated children in Canada. It was found that severely alienated children engage in an extreme level of splitting, i.e., perceive the favored parent in very positive terms and the rejected parent in exclusively negative terms. Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 17
Th_e_ _P_A_R_Q_ _G_a_p_ _(_t_h_e_ _d_i_f_f_e_r_e_n_c_e_ _b_e_t_w_e_e_n_ _t_h_e_ _c_h_i_l_d_’s_ _P_A_R_Q_:_ _M_o_t_h_e_r_ _a_n_d_ _P_A_R_Q_:_ _F_a_t_h_e_r_ _s_c_o_r_e_s_)_ _w_a_s_ _99% accurate in distinguishing alienated from nonalienated children. See principal results below:
Blagg and Godfrey (2018).59 The Bene–Anthony Family Relations Test (BAFRT) was administered to 16 alienated children and 17 nonalienated children in the United Kingdom. Children in the alienated group expressed almost exclusively negative feelings toward the rejected parent while expressing almost exclusively positive feelings toward their preferred parent. See principal results below:
SUMMARY OF DELETERIOUS CONSEQUENCES
Potentially Deleterious Consequences of Absence of PARP in DSM-5-TR
In the United States, there are hundreds of thousands of children and families that have experienced PARP. Occasionally, this amounts to a mild condition that resolves after a simple intervention accomplished by a mental health professional or perhaps a judge. In many cases, however, moderate and severe levels of PARP are extremely painful and damaging for the affected children and the alienated or rejected parent. It is our belief that most of these cases of PARP go undetected and untreated simply because this serious mental condition is not well known among psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, and other mental health professionals and Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 18
because of the misinformation that has been disseminated about it. In some instances, the process of alienation is even encouraged by naïve and poorly informed therapists and lawyers. This unfortunate state of affairs will continue until PARP is recognized by leading mental health organizations and then filtered down to front-line practitioners. The most direct method for accomplishing that goal is for PARP to be accepted as a relational problem in DSM-5-TR, which will quickly lead to educational programs for graduate students and trainees, as well as pertinent continuing education for practicing mental health and legal professionals.
Potentially Deleterious Consequences of Adding PARP to the section on Other Conditions That May Be a Focus of Clinical Attention
The authors of this proposal predict that there will be unpleasant short-term reactions when this proposal is submitted for public comment and, subsequently, if PARP becomes a relational problem in DSM-5-TR. That is, a cadre of critics of parental alienation theory will strenuously object to any formal recognition of PARP. They will say that if PARP receives any kind of official status within the DSM system, abusive fathers will use this diagnosis in legal settings as a way to remove t_h_e_i_r_ _c_h_i_l_d_r_e_n_ _f_r_o_m_ _“p_r_o_t_e_c_t_i_v_e_” _m_o_t_h_e_r_s_ _i_n_ _o_r_d_e_r_ _t_o_ _c_o_n_t_i_n_u_e_ _t_h_e_i_r_ _a_b_u_s_i_v_e_ _p_r_a_c_t_i_c_e_s_._ _Although this concern has been repeated many times for at least 20 years, there has not been objective, systematic research demonstrating that phenomenon, and strong peer-reviewed scientific research indicates that the opposite outcome tends to happen: any allegation of abuse made by a parent (particularly mothers), substantiated or not, tends to result in their getting sole custody of children rather than lose it.60, 61
The most severe critics of parental alienation theory back down when challenged. For example, Paul J. Fink, M.D., former president of the American Psychiatric Association, wrote a regular column for Clinical Psychiatry News. In 2010, Fink famously discussed controversies involving the development of DSM-5:
One such area is parental alienation syndrome (PAS). I am personally involved opposing the inclusion of this bit of junk science invented by a psychiatrist in the 1980s, the late Dr. Richard A. Gardner. … _I_n_ _r_e_c_e_n_t_ _y_e_a_r_s_,_ _t_h_e_ _b_a_l_l_ _h_a_s_ _b_e_e_n_ _p_i_c_k_e_d_ _u_p_ _b_y_ _“f_a_t_h_e_r_’s_ _r_i_g_h_t_s_” _g_r_o_u_p_s_ _w_h_o_ _d_o_n_’t_ _l_i_k_e_ _t_o_ _b_e_ _i_n_t_e_r_f_e_r_e_d_ _w_i_t_h_ _w_h_e_n_ _t_h_e_y_ _a_r_e_ _s_e_x_u_a_l_l_y_ _a_b_u_s_i_n_g_ _t_h_e_i_r_ _children. This group has petitioned the DSM task force to include PAS in the publication.62 p 6
Several readers wrote to the editor of Clinical Psychiatry New a_n_d_ _c_o_m_p_l_a_i_n_e_d_ _a_b_o_u_t_ _F_i_n_k_’s_ _ex-tremely inappropriate and irresponsible remarks. Fink quickly apologized and corrected his published statements, saying:
I apologize for suggesting that all fathers who accuse mothers of PAS are sexually abusing their children. That was clearly an o_v_e_r_s_t_a_t_e_m_e_n_t_ _t_h_a_t_ _I_ _r_e_t_r_a_c_t_._ _… _I_ _h_a_d_ _a_b_s_o_l_u_t_e_l_y_ _n_o_ _Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 19
i_n_t_e_n_t_i_o_n_ _o_f_ _i_m_p_u_g_n_i_n_g_ _D_r_._ _B_e_r_n_e_t_,_ _h_i_s_ _c_o_l_l_e_a_g_u_e_s_,_ _o_r_ _F_a_t_h_e_r_s_ _&_ _F_a_m_i_l_i_e_s_ _i_n_ _a_n_y_ _w_a_y_._ _… _I_ _do not deny that parental alienation occurs and that a lot of people are hurt when there is an alienator.63 p 10
We_ _a_g_r_e_e_ _w_i_t_h_ _D_r_._ _F_i_n_k_ _t_h_a_t_ _“a_ _l_o_t_ _o_f_ _p_e_o_p_l_e_ _a_r_e_ _h_u_r_t_ _w_h_e_n_ _t_h_e_r_e_ _i_s_ _a_n_ _a_l_i_e_n_a_t_o_r_._” _W_e_ _believe that in the long-term, there will be minimal negative consequences of including PARP as a relational problem in DSM-5-TR. We predict, instead, that in the future the various factions that have opinions about PARP—the proponents, the opponents, practitioners, researchers, legal scholars—will come together to share their respective expertise. They will find ways to study PARP in a collaborative manner in order to more fully understand the psychopathology of this condition, methods for its diagnosis, interventions for varying levels of severity, and perhaps ultimately its prevention. W_e_ _a_g_r_e_e_,_ _i_n_ _f_a_c_t_,_ _w_i_t_h_ _D_r_._ _F_i_n_k_’s_ _s_u_m_m_a_t_i_o_n_:_ _
I hope we can all come to an agreement about what constitutes alienation, how to deal with PAS, and how to proceed in court hearings when someone alleges that one or another parent is an alienator or an abuser.61 p 10
THE PROBLEM OF MISINFORMATION
An unusual feature of this topic is the unusual amount of misinformation that has been created by critics of parental alienation theory over many years. This misinformation—which was expressedin various forms—has been methodically clarified and refuted by proponents of parental alienation theory in book chapters64, 65, and in peer-reviewed journals.17, 66, 67, 68
A particularly dramatic example of chronic misinformation is illustrated in the figure below (Bernet, unpublished data). In this research, citation analysis was used to demonstrate a pattern of recurrent misinformation in journal articles, books, presentations, government documents, and legal briefs. In this diagram, 87 publications and other materials are indicated in chronological order from left (1994) to right (2022). Node size indicates the number of times an item is cited by subsequent items. Arrow direction of the edges represents the direction of the misinformation. Thus, the earliest example of misinformation (Wood 1994) only has outgoing edges; the most recent examples (e.g., Doughty 2022) only have incoming arrows. Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 20
Or course, this type of bibliometric research has implications for the proposal that PARP be added to DSM-5-TR. Critics of parental alienation theory are likely to protest vigorously to this proposal. We urge DSM personnel to consider the writings of parental alienation critics in a careful and somewhat skeptical manner—and to distinguish factual material from the false information and misinformation that may be found there.
[REFERENCES WILL GO HERE IN FINAL VERSION] Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 21
This proposal has been endorsed by the following mental health practitioners, researchers, advocacy groups, and professional organizations.
Mandy Mathewson, Ph.D., and the Family and Interpersonal Relationships Lab, University of Tasmania, Hobart, Tasmania, Australia.
Ronald P. Rohner, Ph.D., Professor Emeritus, and Director of the Center for the Study of Inter-personal Acceptance and Rejection, University of Connecticut, Storrs, Connecticut, USA.
Family Access – _F_i_g_h_t_i_n_g_ _f_o_r_ _C_h_i_l_d_r_e_n_’s_ _R_i_g_h_t_s_,_ _N_o_r_t_h_ _C_a_r_o_l_i_n_a_,_ _U_S_A_ _- brings awareness and education of alienation as well as support to alienated family members, http://www.familyaccessfighting-forchildrensrights.com.
H_e_r_o_’s_ _C_i_r_c_l_e_ _
Mothers Against Child Abuse
Parental Alienation Study Group, Nashville, Tennessee, USA – _900 members (mental health and legal professionals and alienated parents and grandparents) from 65 countries, http://www.pasg.info.
Victim to Hero Institute
International Society for Interpersonal Acceptance-Rejection (ISIPAR), Storrs, Connecticut, USA – _supports and encourages research and practice worldwide related to issues of interpersonal acceptance and rejection, https://isipar.uconn.edu/. Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 22
Sumbleen Ali, Ph.D., Assistant Professor, Human Development and Family Studies, State University of New York – _Oneonta, New York, USA
Amy J. L. Baker, Ph.D., Teaneck, New Jersey, USA
William Bernet, M.D., Professor Emeritus, Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, Vanderbilt University, Nashville, Tennessee, USA
Jennifer J. Harman, PhD. Associate Professor, Colorado State University, Fort Collins, CO, USA
Demosthenes Lorandos, Ph.D., J.D., Private Practice, PsychLaw, Ann Arbor, Michigan, USA
Stephen Lee Morrison, Ph.D., Houston, Texas, USA
Vincenzo Paolo Senese, Ph.D., Associate Professor, Department of Psychology, University of Campania, Caserta, Italy.
Les Linet, M.D., Clinical Associate Professor, College of Health Professionals, Pace University, New York, New York, USA
Appendix D: Bernet W, Greenhill L: The Five-Factor Model for the Diagnosis of Pa-rental Alienation. Journal of American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, 2022; 61(5):591–594. Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 24
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35 Association of Family and Conciliation Courts: Guidelines for Parenting Plan Evaluations in Family Law Cases, 2022.
36 American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers: Child Centered Residential Guidelines, 2015.
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43 Bernet W, Baker AJL, Adkins II KL: Definitions and terminology regarding child alignments, estrangement, and alienation: A survey of custody evaluators. Journal of Forensic Sciences, 2022; 67:279–288.
44 Walker AJ: The extreme consequence of parental alienation syndrome – _The Richard Lohstroh case of a child driver to kill his father – _Will courts move toward allowing children to use parental alienation syndrome as a defense to the crime of murder of their o_w_n_ _p_a_r_e_n_t_?_ _W_o_m_e_n_’s_ _R_i_g_h_t_s_ _L_a_w_ _R_e_p_o_r_t_e_r_,_ _2_0_0_6_;_ _2_7_(_3_)_:_1_5_3_–164.
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48 Reay K: Family Reflections: A promising therapeutic program designed to treat severely alienated children and their family system. American Journal of Family Therapy, 2015.
49 Walters MG, Friedlander S: When a child rejects a parent: Working with the intractable re-sist/refuse dynamic. Family Court Review, 2016; 54(3):424–445.
50 Warshak R: Reclaiming parent-child relationships: Outcomes of Family Bridges with alienated children. Journal of Divorce and Remarriage, 2018. Parental Alienation Relational Problem, page 28
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56 Rowlands GA: Parental alienation: A measurement tool. Journal of Divorce and Remarriage, 2019; 60(4):316–331.
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With just one week to go until the International Academy of Practice with Alienated Children holds its first conference in Israel, we have well over a hundred practitioners registered to attend in person and online, making this a powerful beginning for this small international group focused upon the wellbeing of alienated children.
The purpose of the Academy
The Purpose of the Academy is to develop, curate and promote clinical excellence in the treatment of children who become alienated as a result of family disharmony and dissolution.
The Academy conceptualises alienation in children as an alienation from the self as a consequence of defensive splitting.
We do not regard alienation to be a problem in the child but recognise it as a relational problem that creates an induced splitting defence in response to the inter and intra-psychic pressures experienced by the child in its attempt to maintain attachment unity after family separation.
Clinicians in IAPAC work from the perspective of the child and at all times the lived experience of the child is considered alongside the risk of harm. This model, conceptualises the harm done to the child as self alienation, what Janina Fisher describes as
Fragmentation of the Self is a consequence of an overload (single trauma, cummulative trauma). It is linked especially with childhood adversities. Temporarily or permanently early life stress increases the individual vulnerability of fragmentation of the Self.
HEALING THE FRAGMENTED SELVES OF TRAUMA SURVIVORS – JANINA FISHER 2016
Working with alienated children produces significant information about the way in which relational pressure causes the child to regress to an infantile state of mind, in which splitting, a core primitive defence, relieves the child of an intolerable burden. This information enables a depth understanding of what the child experiences and how to work with the child to bring about successful outcomes. Working from the perspective that this is a relational trauma which causes reactive splitting in the parent who is being rejected, builds recognition that therapy with families where children reject a parent is about the implementation of boundaries and the amelioration of power dynamics.
Special Guest Speakers
Barbara Jo Fidler, Ph.D., C.Psych., Acc.FM.
Clinical Developmental Psychologist
Dr Fidler is a clinical developmental psychologist. She has worked with high conflict separating/divorcing families conducting assessments, professional consultations, expert testimony, mediation, arbitration, therapy and parenting coordination for over 30 years. Dr. Fidler provides training to judges, lawyers and mental health professionals and has presented at numerous conferences. She is co-author of four books: Child Custody Assessments (2008), Challenging Issues in Child Custody Disputes (2008), Best Practice Guide: Responding to Emotional Harm & Parent-Child Contact Problems in High Conflict Separation (2013), and Children Who Resist Post-Separation Parental Contact: A Differential Approach for Legal and Mental Health Professionals (2012).
Benjamin D. Garber, Ph.D.
Dr. Garber is a New Hampshire licensed psychologist, parenting coordinator, expert consultant to family law matters across North America, speaker and author. He is also a former Guardian ad litem. Dr. Garber has advanced degrees in psycholinguistics, developmental and clinical child psychology from the University of Michigan and The Pennsylvania State University. He completed an internship in clinical child and family psychology at the Institute of Living in Hartford, Connecticut. He is co-founder of the Parenting Coordination Association of New Hampshire, winner of the March of Dimes “Distinction in Media Excellence” award, and an acclaimed educator and author in numerous areas of child and family development and family law.
This conference is the first in a series of projects for the International Academy of Practice with Alienated Children and we are delighted with the interest shown and the continued drive of so many practitioners to do the right thing for abused children of divorce and separation.
Please note that I will be in Israel for two weeks from 11th June and will be reporting on the seminars and outputs from the conference over the two days 14/15th June.
On my return I will be focused upon our courses for parents – Holding up a Healthy Mirror and Higher Level Understanding – both of which have been attended by 100 plus parents so far. A new course for parents who have completed HUAHM and HLU, will begin in late September alongside a new Therapeutic Parenting Initiative which I will be focusing on from the Autumn.
VAD GÖR VI MED VÅRA BARNS LIV, SOMLIGA AV OSS FÖRÄLDRAR OCH PROFESSIONELLA SOM MÖTER BARN OCH FÖRÄLDRAR PÅ OLIKA SÄTT DÅ FÖRÄLDRARNA GÅTT ISÄR – OCH EN AV DEM VILL HA EGEN KONTROLL ÖVER BARNET?
I de allvarligaste fallen medverkar vi, som ska följa den hippokratiska eden att främst av allt annat INTE SKADA, till att i praktiken döda en god nog mamma eller en god nog pappa för deras barn.
Genom att vara förblindade av den ena förälderns nedgörande bild avden andra förälderntror vi – ja, är övertygade om – att vi medverkar till att skydda barnet!
Vi ser inte att barnet har isolerats av den ena föräldern mot den andra och fått höra nedgörande ord om denna – och tror på dem.
Vi förstår inte att barnetintekan riskeraatt förlora också denna förälder.
Barnetdelar sig i sig själv och uttrycker sitt ”val” av denna förälder.Det tror vi är sant.
Självklart rekommenderar vi då inskränkt eller ingen kontakt alls med denav barnet ”självt” bortvaldaföräldern.
Vi sanktionerardärmed ett KONTAKTBROTTi ordets dubbla betydelse: ett brott i kontakten med en god nog mamma eller pappa som barnet tidigare stått nära och behöver ha nära kontakt med för att själv kunna må bra.
Men också ett ”brott” som endast i vissa länder betraktas som ett straffbart brott.Detbrottet handlar omatt – utan saklig välundersökt grund – avskilja ett barn från nära kontakt med en tidigare av barnet äskad mamma eller pappa – och även andra närstående på denna förälders sida.
Måndagen den 30 maj kl. 14-16 kan du koppla upp dig till ett webbinarium med temat KONTAKTSABOTAGE som tar upp dessa frågor. VÄLKOMMEN!
Inbjudan till webinar:
En fortbildning arrangerad i samarbete mellan VBU (Vårdnad Boende Umgänge) PASG Nordic (Parental Alienation Study Group Nordic). Forbildningen vänder sig till barnpsykologer, skolkuratorer, skolpersonal, advokater och andra professionella aktörer som är involverade i vårdnadstvister, drabbade föräldrar och andra anhöriga. Se inbjudan.
Måndagen den 30 maj 2022, kl. 14-16
Webinar – Kontaktsabotage
Anmälan via VBU Facebook sida eller via mejl om man önskar få det inspelade webinariet skickat till sig: email@example.com
lärde jag mig av Erik Schüldt i P2 en söndag förmiddag
Det finns bara liv – och död
skrev skalden KarinBoye
om jag förstod skådespelaren Gunilla Röör rätt från P126 maj
För länge sedan läste jag om Dantes vadnring i underjorden och hans vägledare Virgilius, som frågade: Vad är det som växer ju flera som delar det? Svaret var: KÄRLEKEN.
Men, tänker jag när jag ser hur hat, hämnd, avundsjuka, ibland girighet, upptar pappor och mammor som vill ha egen kontroll över ett barn och utesluta det från den andra förälderns kärlek och bekräftelse, också dessa drivkrafter växer – ju flera som delar dem.Därför, funderar jag vidare, bör vi som möter dessa barn och föräldrar vara noga med att undersöka de faktiska omstänigheterna för barnet – också bakåt i tiden så långt det är möjligt. När vi tar den ena förälderns bild av hur det ÄR som god fisk, som de säger i Norge, dvs. intiutivt tar denna bild till oss och agerar efter den, genom att t.ex. förorda bruten kontakt med den andra föräldern, så är risken stor att vi medverkar till att skada det barn vi tror oss skydda och hjälpa.
Min övertygelse, med stöd i mycken forskning, är att barnetbehöver få villkorslös kärlek från – och bli bekräftat av – båda sina föräldrar, förutsatt att dessa föräldrar är vad vi kallar goda nog. Barnet behöver detta för att barnet självt ska kunna må bra och växa till en hel människa förmögen att älska och bekräfta sig själv och sina nära och kära.
To turn a child against a parent is to turn a child against themselves
Forwarded from Amanda Sillars in Australia by Lena Hellblom Sjögren May 9, 2022
To turn a child against a parent is to turn a child against themselves 💔 We estimate that at least 1 million Australian children are currently alienated from a parent because of parental alienating behaviors. Your signature on this petition is a signature for the future of all children who may become a victim of parental separation or divorce. We are calling for a legislative change. PLEASE SIGN HERE👇 ✅ https://lnkd.in/gAHS3qbh
Photo and text to the photos by Lena Hellblom Sjögren
”Parental Alienation: Time to Prioritize Prevention and Early Intervention Models”
On Sunday, May 1, 2022 from 8-9 PM EDT, Dr. Mary Alvarez will be guest speaker for our international webinar. This event will begin at 7:15 PM EDT with our conference sponsors and we introduce our presenters of our Fall 2022 conference being held in Durham, N. C. It will be titled ”Using and Refining Interpersonal Skills”.
We have been averaging over 1,100 participants in 42 countries for our events. The initial event is of no charge to anyone. This is a ministry of Family Access-Fighting for Children’s Rights. These events give much information and support to alienated family members as well as those professionals who work in the field of alienation. We are fortunate to have some of the top experts in the world who are on these international webinars.
The science of parental alienation has published, and continues to publish, important research findings concerning consequences to severely alienated children. These children are at risk for encountering significant psychological consequences during the alienation from a target parent (e.g., depression, anxiety, PTSD, attachment disorder), as well as continued psychological consequences when these previously alienated children become adults (e.g.,depression, anxiety, substance abuse). It is imperative, therefore, that as a field we increase our attention, resources, and research efforts to prevention and early intervention to combat the development of alienation and subsequent psychological consequences to a child from being unduly alienated from a parent.
This webinar will focus on prevention and early intervention of parental alienation from both a community perspective, clinical perspective, and a research perspective. Important prevention and early intervention research questions will also be addressed.
The deadline to register for this event is Sunday, May 1, 2022 by 6 PM EDT. Click here on this zoom link to register.
Mary Alvarez, PhD earned her doctorate in developmental psychology with an emphasis in cognitive development and neurodevelopment from the University of Houston. Dr. Alvarez, a licensed psychologist for twenty-five years in Texas, has both a forensic and a clinical practice and she specializes in evaluating and treating high conflict families. As a result of her forensic work in family law as a custody evaluator, Dr. Alvarez has evaluated and witnessed the devastating psychological effects on children whose parents are involved in chronic high conflict, including parental alienation. Dr. Alvarez recognized the need to focus on prevention and early intervention of parental alienation, so she codeveloped Resetting the Family to evaluate and intervene with high conflict parents and families that include mild and moderate parental alienation as part of the conflict.
If more people knew about how Parental Alienation and Hostile Aggressive parenting work, and how damaging these behaviors are to children, then more people can help deal with the problem.
With awareness and education will come social change. Just as now one can’t slap a child, or smoke while pregnant, without everyone knowing that is not acceptable behavior, when social change happens, parents behaving in parental alienation or hostile aggressive parenting behaviors will be recognized. These adults will understand how their behavior hurts their own children, and if they choose to do it regardless, they will not be able to get away with their behavior as easily as today.
There are many professionals such as judges, lawyers, psychiatrists, teachers, police officers, as well the general public that have no idea this problem exists, or if they do, don’t realize the harm it does. The aim of the Awareness Day is to make everyone aware of these problems and encourage the alienating, hostile aggressive parents to seek help.
With awareness comes education, and with education, comes the power to stop the mental and emotional abuse of children.–Sarvy Emo
I love you indefinitely
The one I created you with
An implacable hatred
you learnt to share
You are not allowed to love me
and not me in you
Who am I? You ask yourself when you seek yourself
The answer is that you are a person who has
when you had no other choice than to hate me
It is not your fault
You bear no guilt
You do not have to hate the one who taught you to hate me
A man who is unconscious of himself acts in a blind, instinctive way and is in addition fooled by all the illusions that arise when he sees everything that he is not conscious of in himself coming to meet him from outside as projections upon his neighbor.” – Carl Jung
I believe that we are at the point at which the harm which is caused to children who suffer induced psychological splitting after divorce or family separation, is beginning to be universally recognised. In our work in the courts, with social workers and with adults who were alienated as children all around the world, I see the evidence, that the dynamics which cause children harm, are increasingly recognised. The campaign ‘noise’ around this issue, which is created in a deliberate attempt to normalise behaviours which are harming children, is silenced when we understand that the racket which is being made about the label parental alienation, emanates from those who use primitive defences in everyday life. When we understand that noise as a projection, we understand the intent and the underlying motives and by not engaging with that, we see it fall away.
The problem of children hyper aligning with one parent and rejecting the other after divorce and separation is called variously called Parental Alienation Theory (Bernet, 2021), Resist/Refuse dynamics (Walters & Friedlander, 2016), Attachment Based Parental Alienation (Childress, 2015) and Induced Psychological Splitting, (Woodall & Woodall, 2019). The difference in labels and underlying conceptualisation matters because in clinical work with families this problem is about primitive defences in families of divorce and separation, psychological splitting in children only being one part of the overall problem. Primitive defences were identified by Johnston and Roseby (1997), as being the core dynamic which causes children to reject and before that, Wallerstein and Kelley (1980), wrote about an unholy alliance between child and parent which put the other parent at distance. The knowledge is there in the psychoanalytic literature and in my view, when we look at the problem through the lens of understanding primitive defences and their impact on families, the kaleidoscope of fragmented understanding, comes together in an integrated view of what the problem is and how to treat it.
Understanding the problem in families from a clinical perspective, makes sense of the drama which erupts around the child who has been induced to use psychological splitting. This is a primitive defence, which means that it is infantile in nature, which means that the child and those around the child, are driven back into experiencing the world in simplistic terms of good/bad, black/white, heroes and villains. Having worked in a number of cases where the family system was split in this way, I have observed how the primtive defence of denial and projection is infectious and how legal and mental health teams can begin to split into good/bad factions, projecting their own unresolved material onto their opponents until the whole case resembles a war zone. Primitive defences also give rise to other phenonmena like social contagion, in which emotional responses to an issue spread amongst adherents to a cause, overturning normal capacity to rationalise and triggering conspiracy theories and other behaviours related to splitting, denial and projection. One doesn’t have to go very far on social media to see how this plays out around this issue, the online world being a perfect platform for primitive defences to be displayed.
Away from all of this noise however, the reality of what we are working with, which is the harm which is caused to children when they are bound into adult feelings post divorce and separation, is crystal clear. With greater clarity comes greater understanding and with greater understanding comes willingness to intervene and protect abused children. Thus the task to conceptualise the clinical issues continues and this week I have been working with colleagues to further develop the resources which will support a greater global understanding of the problem we are working with and how to treat it.
In our training to social workers and other family court professionals we use this video to explain what we mean by children’s inate vulnerability to influence by adults.
When you watch this video, it becomes possible to understand the concepts of the biological imperative to attach which are explained by the psychoanalytic literature. When you understand the biological imperative to attach and how this causes children to adapt their behaviours to please and placate adults, it becomes possible to understand the way in which children must be protected from adult feelings during times of significant change like family separation. Building understanding of children’s alignment and rejecting behaviour from this knowledge base, it is then possible for practitioners to recognise why the primitive defences in divorce and separation, are so harmful to children. Skilling the workforce to understand the harm done to children and then to treat it, is our ongoing task, doing this amidst the noise of those using primitive defences to try and frighten people away from this work, becomes easier when the projections are recognised.
Watch the toddler’s face on the video when the woman with the beads invites her to put the beads in the cup. Look at the way that the child experiences the double bind. Everything in her is programmed to mirror, to reflect back understanding and copy putting the beads in the cup. Competing with that is the anxiety based awareness that the other woman doesn’t like the beads going into the cup. What is the child to do? She sits and looks at the beads. She looks at the first woman and shows her confusion, she looks at the second woman and shows her anxiety. Ultimately, it is the anxiety about displeasing the second woman which wins the day and she doesn’t put the beads in the cup.
An alienated child is like this toddler. It is the parent the child is most afraid of displeasing, the parent causing the most anxiety in the child who wins the day, when the child defends against the authentic drive to attach and stay attached. This double bind, in which the child is caught in the mirror of an unhealthy parent’s use of primitive defences, is the problem we are treating when we work with families affected by psychological splitting, causing this, allowing and enabling it and ultimately, failing to protect children from it, is child abuse.
IAPAC will open its conference in Israel on 14/15 June 2022 with a close look at children’s rights in the realm of parental divorce and separation. In doing so, we will open up this space to scrutiny in terms of what is happening psychologically and systemically, in families where children display alignments and rejecting behaviours and what harm is being done to children when the alienation dynamic is denied or misunderstood by practitioners. Examining children’s rights in the round, their right to a voice, their right to live free from adult concerns and their right to be parented healthily after divorce and separation, we will consider and balance the child’s holistic long term needs with their individual rights, in order to understand why interventions are necessary to assist them. Following on from that will be a packed two day conference looking at evidence based interventions with children and families and seminars will therefore be of interest to social workers, psychotherapists and other mental health professionals working with children in divorce and separation.
Examples of the Seminars and Learning Outcomes
Balancing Children’s Rights and Practitioner Responsibilities – understanding the need to intervene when children reject a parent.
Identification with the Aggressor – recognising coercive control of children who reject a parent.
Understanding and assisting the alienated child – evidence based interventions for reunification and recovery.
Integrating polarised thinking in the family where children align and reject – therapy with alienated children and families.
Therapeutic Parenting for Alienated Children – supporting parents to cope, helping children to heal.